You may be an extrovert with an internal locus of control—someone who believes they control everything around them. We refer to this type as the controller.

The controller is someone who manipulates situations, using psychological techniques and tactics to adapt to what others like in order to maintain control over them. Their core belief is: “I must act differently with each person, giving them what they want in order to make them like me.”

As a result, the controller often experiences a range of emotions. They’re hypersensitive to how others feel and constantly hypervigilant to what’s going on around them.

You may often a deep sense of resentment or unfairness, especially when you’re rejected. Worrying about your reputation and how you’re perceived is a common theme, as you fear being seen in a way you don’t want.

You may feel a strong need for love and affection, but at the same time, you fear intimacy and don’t want others to get too close.

Validation is important to you, but you keep others at arm’s length emotionally. In social situations, you feel vulnerable and unsafe when you’re not in control.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/ZZQqxLWW-qE

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