Hi I'm Coach Mike, and I'm passionate about helping people live their life to the fullest. My life has had quite a few interesting chapters, but rarely (until the last 5 years) could I say I was truly happy.
Now I know what I was missing, what's truly important to me, and my life is centred on the things I value.
My writing & coaching focuses on the areas where I have struggled the most, learned the most, & grown the most.
These are the areas that I can help you most with...
I'm available for 1:1 intense personal coaching. If you're interested to know more, you can contact me at right.
I never make the same mistake twice. I make it at least 5 or 6 times, just to be sure.
As a teenager, I had heaps of dreams and fantasies about how my life would go. My dream life included marriage, family, starting my own business, exploring the world, inventing cool new things that would make the world a better place. I had a lot of ideals and fantasies about how my life would be.
I've reached several of those mountaintops. I've been married. I have beautiful children. I've started a very successful business. I've owned a nice house and a very fast Japanese sports car. I've had more money than I knew how to spend. I've lived on the 59th story of a skyscraper, and owned the beautiful oak-and-granite loft in the central Chicago business district. Each of these goals and victories were fun.
But I soon discovered that these "accomplishments" didn't make me happy.
There were always downsides I hadn't forseen. Stresses I hadn't planned on. Higher mountains that I could see only from the top of the one I'd just climbed.
I also discovered that, being on top of those mountains was somehow less exciting and rewarding than the climb itself. And I never felt content, victorious, or... happy. Happiness in life wasn't about the top, it was about the process of getting there.
That idea just seemed weird, so at first I thought the answer to the post-victory emotional lows was "I need more." I started more businesses, invented more things, bought more cool stuff, had more relationships, and more children,
2 marriages, 4 children, 32 startup businesses, 4 homes and 5 cars later, I had to accept that, you know what, I must have something wrong. The top of the mountain was simply not what life is about. I was aiming for the wrong thing.
The questions you ask in life are at the centre of everything. They determine what you focus on, what you learn, and where you grow.
Instead of asking What will make me happy? I ask Where have I been happiest?
I found the obvious answer in my childhood, when I naturally lived the way that felt most right. Curiosity, creativity, adventure, and friendship were huge for me. I could spend hours talking with someone about an interesting idea, or disassembling TVs, radios, phones, and toasters to see how they worked (sorry mum).
Instead of asking What will make my life meaningful? I ask What makes my life meaningful to ME?
I found that the answer for me is, learning about and exercising my core values. Every time, I am deeply rewarded - even for the smallest step I take.
Instead of asking What do I NEED to feel enriched and complete? I ask What can I DO that enriches me the most right now?
Since I began asking this, I build a Japanese drumming team, studied karate, Acroyoga, and Zouk dance, and started BROJO. I conquered some severe stage fright, and my fear of public speaking. Started going to the gym. And I trained to be a personal confidence coach.
Instead of asking How can I get the romantic relationship that I want? I ask What can I give to someone else who I respect and care deeply about?
I've been rewarded with the best and deepest friendships and the best romantic connections I've ever imagined.
My journey is just beginning, but I've finally learned what questions should guide my way.
My life is full of personal experiences with depression, failure, expectations, broken relationships, deep social anxiety, and being bullied as a kid. All of these felt like "losses" on my life score-card, until I learned how to grow through these experiences, and turn them into some of the most valuable parts of my life.
They are hugely valuable to me in my coaching work as well. If you're looking for a coach, you might find my own life experiences something you resonate with.
Drop me a line anytime if you'd like to chat, I love coaching and am always keen to help.
This is my journey so far. It was full of setbacks, and unhelpful expectations and beliefs that held me back. My "failures" felt like end-of-the-world events. Now those experiences are among my greatest lessons and I value them deeply for what they have given me.
Are you struggling to create the life you want? Are you fighting with past failures that you don't know how to get past?