Let’s talk about a particular type of introvert, often referred to as the wallflower. This is someone who operates from an external locus of control.

Their core belief is: “I must avoid disapproval, and I do that by avoiding being noticed at all.” The logic here is simple—the less you're noticed, the less likely you are to be disapproved of.

So, they avoid controversy and steer clear of attention, fearing that being noticed will lead to humiliation, rejection, and abandonment.

For the wallflower, it feels safest to remain invisible.

As a result, they often experience chronic anxiety, a constant pull toward isolation, and a deep sense of loneliness—even when they’re surrounded by others.

Frustration sets in when they struggle to express themselves clearly or feel unheard and ignored. This can give rise to bouts of depression and a constant underlying fear of being thrust into the spotlight, called out, or singled out in any way—since that could suddenly bring all the attention being directed at you.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/ZZQqxLWW-qE

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