An interesting insight came up in my Brotherhood coaching group last week.

We identified a peculiar phenomena: we noticed that most of us simultaneously hold two, otherwise contradictory, beliefs. We understand that our mind can lie to us by having thoughts that are not true, and yet, in everyday life, we believe pretty much every thought we have.

It's like we never question our mind, we never doubt it or the stories that appear in our head, even though we know that our mind can lie to us. If, for example, you're talking to someone and they yawn and look away from you, your mind might say to you: "It's because I'm boring."

And just like that, you will believe in your own interpretation, and you'll actually act according to the story that you just told yourself: you'll either try to be more interesting or or you'll detach from the person. Either way, you act as if they've actually proved and confirmed that you're boring. And yet, the truth is, your mind just came up with a thought, with an interpretation.

The more likely explanation is that the person in front of you is tired, anxious, or maybe they're autistic. Chances are, this is how they react to social situations in general, and not to you in particular.

Regardless of this insight, most of us keep on believing our often inaccurate minds and interpretations that we create based on our assumptions and insecurities, not evidence.

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