Green Light Syndrome, or waiting for permission to spring into action, takes many forms. Often, it manifests as avoidance of any tension.

Sometimes, the guy becomes so avoidant of any kind of tension that he will not act without a “green light”. He will not do something that does not clearly have encouragement and permission. Generally, he has to wait to be told to do something or wait for somebody else to lead.

I quite often get emails about this being a problem in the bedroom. The guy just does not initiate. The woman thinks he doesn't want her anymore. Sometimes, he's actually given up because it becomes so confrontational to have sex.

Here’s the issue: he can't move without her making the first move. In this situation, the woman has to adopt the kind of masculine role in the relationship, whether she's naturally masculine or not, and he isn't even feminine. He's just passive. He's just a follower.

So, the decision making, especially the decisions that affect everybody in the family, get dumped onto the partner.

To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here:

https://youtu.be/lvFGdsoqoMU

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