Attraction is a feeling of interest, sometimes sexual, in another person. That's all it is—a feeling. The other person does not have to have any particular qualities for this feeling to occur. Expressed in terms of evolutionary psychology, attraction is not a choice.

You have no choice about who you're attracted to. All these triggers go off in your mind. It's deeply subconscious, and you'll know this from your own experience: sometimes you like someone and you just don't know why. You tell yourself a story about why you're attracted to them, but that story is often contradicted by the next person you're attracted to.

There's really no sense to attraction. It's just a feeling. Now, that's different from connection, okay? This is where a lot of people get confused. They think that because they're attracted to someone, they also have a connection with them. The reason they believe this is because they attach a fantasy to their feeling of attraction.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ_EyEvS-1U

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